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How to stop working when you work for yourself

This post is sponsored by POP SECRET® but the content and opinions expressed here are my own.

There are so many things that are wonderful and amazing about working for yourself. Unlimited earning potential, doing what you love 90% of the time (keeping it real), no need to request vacation days, and judgement free hours listening to podcasts while you work. One of the hardest parts is learning how to stop working when you work for yourself.

Some days I actively work for three hours and other days I work for 12+ hours, literally from the moment I wake up until I put my dying phone back on the charger late at night.

It’s super cool that I work for myself, but there’s no supervisor to remind me to take a day off, there’s no work computer to turn off and leave at the office. I work on the toilet, at stoplights, waiting to check out at the store, and even during traditional office hours sometimes. There is no built in “off” button to my work.

Here’s the crazy part, though: if I was the boss of anyone but myself, I would absolutely insist that they took time off. Not only that, but I can get way more done in five solid, focused hours of work than I can with ten hour days chasing the imaginary end zone.

There will always be more to do, new things to try and opportunities to grow. But to meet these opportunities, we have to be rested and excited and recharged. Easier said than done though, right?

Give yourself permission – LITERALLY write yourself a note excusing yourself from work – to stop working.

As I’m learning how to stop working, I’ve given myself permission to do the following things:

  1. Read a book just for the fun of reading a book.
  2. Make my favorite snack and relax with a podcast or a movie. 
    One of my all-time favorite snacks is popcorn, so keeping a box of POP SECRET® on hand is a no brainer. It’s super easy to keep a box in your Amazon cart at all times so that when you order… I don’t know, sheet suspenders or coffee syrup pumps or glass spray bottles, an essential time off snack pops up in the box. See what I did there? Pops up? 😉
  3. Take a nap.
    Set a timer, and take a 45-minute nap if your body is needing some rest. You have my permission to sleep while the world spins on.
  4. Get distracted without feeling bad.
    If I’m trying to work, social media can be the enemy. But if I’m actively NOT working, social media can be really fun. Don’t feel bad retweeting things on Twitter, watching all the Instagram stories, and pinning lots of things on Pinterest.
  5. Binge watch a few episodes of a TV show. 
    Get comfy, pop a bag of POP SECRET® and get swept away in a few episodes of a TV show. Some of my favorites are over on this post.
  6. Spend time enjoying your hobbies.
    I love putting stickers in my planner. Sometimes I spend a LOT of time looking through all of my stickers, wishing I had time to organize them or decorate my planner a little more… take that time! Whatever your hobbies are, use your not working time to invest in the things that make you feel happy.
  7. Reach out to your friends.
    A lot of my job is from my phone, so I tend to ignore any texts that come through while I’m working. That has resulted in almost 200 unread text messages. Take the time to respond to texts or send funny memes to people you love.
  8. Brain dump.
    If you find that it’s hard to not work, spend a minute brain dumping everything that you’re thinking of “to do” in your business. Set a timer for 2 minutes and. write down all the pressing things. Give yourself permission to do those when you start working again. It’s weird, but this exercise is really helpful for me. Getting things out of my head and onto paper helps me acknowledge them and save them for later.

You have my permission to stop because sometimes we just need someone to tell us that it’s okay.

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Belated Christmas Studio Apartment Tour :]

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After our sudden move out of our apartment, we un-decorated for Christmas and got the opportunity to re-decorate our new one! Since we’ve only experienced one married Christmas, our decor was all for our original apartment… that has a living room, kitchen, bathroom… oh, and bedroom. Now we live in a small studio where the living room, bedroom and kitchen are all one big room.

I’ve shared that I regretted how little I shared of our beloved 202 1 bedroom apartment, so I’m trying to take more photos in our new one. That said, a few days after we moved in, I took some photos of the little glimpses of Christmas we put up. I’ll try to post an actual, proper tour of our apartment, but for now, enjoy these belated Christmas Studio Apartment decor photos!

Not actually Christmas related but y’all our bed just is so cozy looking in this apartment!

One day we were driving on the freeway and I saw a car with an Instagram handle decal, so I went to the instagram handle and it was an adorable Instagram store, The Sweetie Bee! I began following and this year we went to a holiday bazaar and bought this beautiful hand painted silent night sign.

We had this entryway cabinet in the other apartment and I knew I wanted to recreate it as best as possible! My friend Heidi sent us this it is well sign for our wedding and our friends gave us the cartoon drawing of us! OK funny story about the fa la la la la sign! Sometimes antique vendors find stuff at like Target and will include it in their booths. Last year we were in the antique store we live above and I saw this adorable sign and freaked out. It was like $12 but I just loved it. The next week, we were in Target and I saw it… in the bullseye playground area… for like $7. UGH! But whatever, I love it enough 😀

The glass spray bottle (it’s just an old Kombucha bottle) is a spray we used to make our fake tree smell a little more… tree-ey. It’s dōterra’s Holiday Peace with a bunch of witch hazel. Also note the adorable Kate Spade wood + gold polka dot frame. I just can’t with it, I love it so much.

Last year we bought $1 stockings and said we’d buy better ones this year. When I saw these plaid with gold polka dots stockings at Home Goods, I knew they were perfect! Justen’s a little plaid and I’m a little gold polka dot, so it worked out well. I really wanted garland for the desk our TV is one to kind of turn it into a mantle, and I couldn’t find anything I liked so I just made it myself! Pretty proud of how it turned out, not gonna lie!

This year I’ve developed quite a love of ornaments! Not matchy ones, but cute symbolic ones that have meaning and I want to keep forever! The top one was given to us by my mom – it’s Lauren Conrad! Last year, Justen’s mom got him the camera one.

Curly Girl Design is ADORABLE. Years ago I’d found this Curly Girl Ornament and I love it. Justen’s mom found this old computer ornament of Justen’s, we’re always looking for Starbucks ornaments at thrift stores (bc duh) and then this year at Goodwill, I’d found these Young Living diffuser ornaments! I don’t use their oils, but heck YES I’ll use this adorable diffuser! I bought 3 of them and gave one to my sister in law.

The snowman ornament thing? When I placed my December order, a “Snowman Bottle Topper” mysteriously appeared and I was so excited to see what it was!… well… literally a snowman bottle topper! I died laughing.

Last year we bought this Liberty Theater ornament from Camas Gallery – we live next door to the Liberty Theater here in downtown Camas, so having this hand painted ornament is definitely sentimental. I love it so so so much. Can you tell I love a lot of things so much? 😀

Sorry for the overblown photo, but how do you like our tree topper? Yes, those would be my Christmas sequins mouse ears from Disneyland! It was sparkly and seemed fitting. I tucked my other sequins mouse ears all over the tree to give it a little more sparkle. The circle ornament is a dōterra diffuser ornament from last year 🙂

The full Christmas scene. See the hidden Mickey ears?! Also, there’s a Nutcracker ornament because while we were dating, Justen took me to see The Nutcracker for the first time. There’s also a Yoda Ornament and a silver Packy The Elephant (RIP) ornament! 

I spent awhile picking out our wrapping paper this year. We got this cute pink paper with a crocodile that says “Master wrapper.” It was premium wrap (aka REALLY THICK) and came in sheets on a roll. It left glitter freaking EVERYWHERE! The pretty blue wrap was ALSO premium wrap. Premium wrap is hard to deal with.

Last year we were walking by the Antique store and I saw this Jingle all the way dish towel; I knew we had to have it (similar here)! The pot holder set is from Kate Spade and it’s seriously my favorite Christmas design!

I even have it in an apron and a tumbler. It’s just the cutest.

Excuse the mess, but we added a little Christmas to the wall of the kitchen, too.

Not Christmas related, but this is our little nightstand setup for now. We went from two nightstands to one, so we’re both having to share this. 

This is our storage closet. AKA stuff I really need to use up/go through/get rid of.

Side note: this is the view from our window!

and this gives you an idea of the smallness of our space and how cozy the tree is so close to our bed!

So there you have it! Look for a full on Studio Apartment tour coming to this space soon, but I’m so glad I captured a few shots of how Christmas 2018 looked for us.

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Happy Planner Spread January 7-13 2019

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Happy first full week of 2019! Time to share my weekly Happy Planner Spread! I don’t know what it is, but I’ve been SO PRODUCTIVE over the last few weeks. Not just productive but also full of grace for myself when I’m NOT productive. It’s weird, I feel like I’m functioning at a normal level. It’s quite a breath of fresh air from the place I’ve been operating out of for the last year or so!

My Happy Planner spread this week is a little all over the place. We’re trying not to go out to eat for a week (one of my January goals!) so I’ve got a little tracker for that in my sidebar. I also have my monthly goals (there’s only 9 because I already painted my nails!). I’ve got a pretty busy beginning to the week and then it kind of eases up a bit.

Can I get an AMEN that it’s FINALLY Bachelor season? It’s like people that look forward to football or something, except with women in dresses and lots of tears. But I will say I’m just as uninterested in this season’s lead as I was last Bachelor season. Can we PLEASE get an interesting, dynamic Bachelor? Please? Ugh. But anyway! At least I’ll be with friends.

And after like a half a year, I’m going to visit my friend Susannah tomorrow, so I’m keeping my to do list relatively small. On Wednesday, my friend Adriana and I are going to see the Rachel Hollis special. I’ve not read any of her books but I’ve heard a lot about her, so I’m excited!

Aside from coffee with my dad and a fun Sunday, there’s just a lot of blank space for working and GSD. I’ve been enjoying taking the time on Sunday night to do my weekly Happy Planner spread, though I enjoy it more when it’s less all over the place.

and… I literally don’t know what happened, but I’m missing like 3 packs of sticker books and if you haven’t caught on I LOVE these Happy Planner stickers and that is just crazy to me that they’re missing!

Here’s to a productive first year of 2019, for you and for me!

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January Goals 2019 – Starting this year off right!

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One of my 2019 goals is to do #44 on my 101 in 1001 list, which is to make 10 goals a month and accomplish 90 by the end of the month. I actually love making monthly goals, but I tend to make my goals things I don’t want to do. I’m trying to shake that habit by making my January goals fun and things I like/want to do!

Here are my 2019 goals, if you missed it.

and here are my January Goals!

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January Goals

  1. Buy flowers
    Buying flowers for myself every month is actually on my 101 list and I’ve started and stopped this habit so often that I need to just make it a thing. Flowers make me SO HAPPY.
  2. Journal 10 xs
    In October I set a journaling goal and found myself reaching for my journal SO often – and I definitely felt a lot of emotional breakthrough starting to happen because I was journaling. Time to keep that going.
  3. Tone it Up Daily Moves 6 xs
    I didn’t set any specific health goals for the year, but I definitely want to move my body more. We live in a small studio so I don’t have to walk far from the bed to the bathroom to the closet to the kitchen, so I want to be way more intentional about being active.
  4. Track my time one day
    In a conversation with Justen recently, I said I should track my time to really see what I spend my days doing. Sometimes the day will zoom by and I’ll have no idea what I’ve done, so I thought I’d be diligent about seeing what I do every day!
  5. Paint my nails
    Whether this is painting them by myself or actually getting a manicure, I want to get some color on my nails!
  6. Read a book
    One of my goals is to read more books! Whenever I’m in the habit of reading, I think “why the heck don’t I do this more often?” so here we are.
  7. Try a new coffeeshop
    Talk about a goal I like and want to do!
  8. No eating out for 1 week
    In general, we feel better when we eat at home. Physically, financially (ha!) and mentally. We’ve fallen into the habit of going out to eat a few times a week – and usually it’s something like Burgerville or Chick-fil-a – so we’re going to push back on that a little bit.
  9. Keep up with my Memory Planner
    I looooove my Happy Planner, and last April we got a Memory Planner to try and document what we do, but it just kind of fell by the wayside. We bought a new one and decided to start the year off documenting what we do!
  10. Find my FitBit
    Justen got an Apple Watch for his birthday and he’s been obsessed with tracking his activity and water and such, and last night after he asked me if I wanted to do yoga (I almost laughed because I never would have imagined he’d ask that) he suggested I get my FitBit out, and I realized I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE IT IS. I have the band, the charger… but no FitBit. We recently had to quickly pack up and move, so it got lost somewhere in the shuffle. I gotta find that bad boy, though. I feel a little left out not looking at my wrist to see if I’ve walked enough 😉

Drop me a comment and let me know any of your January goals!

Also, I started a YouTube channel at the end of the year last year! I kept forgetting to upload videos, so I decided that for now I’ll just be uploading random lifestyle videos. Starting this year with one about my 2019 and January Goals. Make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel and check out the (probably too long sorry!) video here:


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2019 Goals

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2018, man.

It was a doozy. I constantly tried to get myself to do more, to be more, to do better… and it sucked. At the end of the day, I had to just applaud the few days I dragged myself out of bed and got dressed when I wanted to melt into the sheets.

One thing I’ve learned to do is to celebrate what I’ve accomplished instead of beating myself up for what I haven’t. And with that, I’m not recapping my 2018 goals. bye felicia 18.

Here are my 2019 Goals.

2019 Goals

  1. Pay off Justen’s car
    The other day I realized that if we pay $100 extra dollars a month on Justen’s car, it’d be paid off by the end of the year. and that was a no brainer.
  2. See Crater Lake
    One of the things on my 101 list is to see Crater Lake – it’s a lake that formed at the top of an exploded volcano (or something like that). It’s in Oregon and even though it’s really popular, I’ve never actually been!
  3. #44 on 101
    #44 on my 101 list is to list 10 goals a month for a year and accomplish 90 of them.
  4. Buy flowers every month
  5. Document more
  6. Finish my journal
  7. Read 20 books
  8. Increase my income
  9. Cross of 10 things on my 101 list
  10. Set & achieve my blog/social media goals

There they are in all their glory. 10 seems to be the best number for me, and I’m so excited to get going on the things I decided to achieve. I’d love to know if you set any 2019 goals for the year and what they are!


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