I was {almost} almost honest.

I’ll be honest:
I’m never honest.

Except today I was.

Someone hurt my feelings. Not intentionally. In the way that everybody seems to hurt feelings these days: cancelled plans.

You know that moment. That moment you get a text message from someone you have plans with in a few days and you know before you even open it. Game called on account of some hypothetical rain. Something came up. The worst is when you can understand, right? It sucks when you can imagine yourself in that situation and definitely see why you would cancel plans.

But it still hurts your feelings. If you are anything like me {and I pray that nobody is in this way}, it makes you question your worth. “Obviously I’m not funny enough…” or “if I were more ______, I’d bet they wouldn’t have cancelled….”

Right? That sucks.

So that’s where I was at last night. Staring that ugly text message in the face, I pulled out the mother of all lies, a mama I’m close with. It comes in two forms: a quick version and a wordier version:

no worries


don’t worry about it.

Lies. All lies.

But really, this story starts on Monday night. The night the plans were made.

Jim Sparks taught Bible study on Monday. About love. He gave 4 enemies of love: envy, selfishness, scorekeeping & fear. At the end we picked one we face the most and stood in the center of a circle, with our friends praying for us. Guess which one I picked?

If you picked scorekeeping, I give you a point.

Buechner said it best when he said…
Of the Seven Deadly Sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back — in many ways it is a feast fit for a king. The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you.

I know, right? So true.

Back to today. It’s been a rough day for me, in a variety of ways. Lots of people being honest with me.

As I was writing this post about how I am not really honest, I couldn’t help but think of how that aids in my score keeping problem. Just one more wrong done to me that I “selflessly” wrote off in an attempt to not upset the other person.

I called B.S. on myself, went to Facebook, wrote a message… cried while I wrote it because I am a sissy, and sent it. It never said “don’t worry about it” or “you are a terrible person” or “please make me the center of your universe!” It just explained the context of my decision to be upfront, stated the facts about how I am feeling, and made sure they knew I still loved them.

and it feels like some terrible monster that’s been rapidly growing inside of me has been put to death.

Well there’s that.


In other news….

My friend Allen was mentioned on Seventeen.com, which I think is AWESOME. {clickclickclick}

{me and allen. circa 2007. when I wore makeup.}

Before Bible study on Monday, Rach & I went to Starbucks. She got a Naked Juice. We decided to make our own Naked Juice yesterday….

We started with a mango, 2 bananas & 4 kiwis.

Then we cut them all up. and put them on a pink plate.

From there it all went into a blender and met our friends pineapple juice and apple juice.

Blend blend blend blend…

Then it became our green juice.

Was it good? Absolutely. Kinda warm, but still delicious. Will it happen again? Definitely.

Also, I found a hidden Mickey on the counter.

All around, hope is springing up from this old ground.



  1. April 28, 2011 / 2:26 am

    First- the thing you said about questioning your worth when someone changes plans? Yeah, I do that.

    Second, I clicked on your seventeen link, and then I went and listened to some of Allen’s music, and I like it ๐Ÿ™‚

    • April 28, 2011 / 4:00 pm

      Glad I’m not the only one. SAFETY IN NUMBERS! ๐Ÿ™‚
      && yessss! I am so so glad you like Allen’s music. he is one of the most talented people I know!!

  2. April 28, 2011 / 4:39 pm

    I wrote a bunch.. erased it.. wrote again.. erased it..

    The gist of it though, I do that all the time.

  3. Heather G.
    May 23, 2011 / 10:37 pm

    Came back to this quote by Buechner to let it transform me… boy it is hard.ย  Anger is something I salivate on all the time–and eat like a queen.ย  I hear the devil tell me.. hey, remember that thing that happened.. you should be mad.. act angry–let everyone know it.ย  mleh.. then I say.. “throw everything that hinders! and RUN the race set before you!”

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