Justen and I started dating two years ago in January, so we got to experience calendar years together, which was so fun. This is our first New Years Day to New Years Eve being married, so I wanted to document it all with monthly little recaps!
J A N U A R Y
Coffee shops visited: 3
Hidden River Roasters
4 – Spent the evening with my friend Anna.
5 – Camas First Friday, Clue Edition. Lots of sweets. Went to Hidden River Roaster.
6 – Took a girl I know shopping at Target, babysat for our friends.
7 – Justen & Andrew’s birthday party.
10 – I met up with Jackeline from Jarmendjai at Albina Press for great coffee + great convo. 2 years since we met. Stopped at Thatcher’s, where we met.
11 – Adriana came over + we exchanged Christmas gifts and watched Pitch Perfect
12 – Went to Heathen Brewing for Justen’s birthday dinner
13 – We went to Seattle for Bee + Kat’s Harry Potter themed wedding. Stopped at the Starbucks Reserve.
14 – Baby Lauren was born!
18 – Our 2nd dating anniversary. Justen used his birthday money to take us to Red Robin.
27 – Drove to Bainbridge Island for Auden’s 2nd birthday.
29 – Coffee with my dad, Bachelor with Maria.
30 – Coffee with my friend Marlis. Budget meeting dinner at Cheesecake Factory.
Books read: Living Well, Spending Less and The Woman in Cabin 10.
We made it! We did it! and y’all I am FEELING this Friday. I’ve been babysitting overnight for 4 of the last 7 nights and I’m ready to sleep in my own bed and press my ice cold feet against Justen’s legs because he’s legally bound to me and has to put up with me. Marriage is awesome.
So anyway. This is the Fridayest Friday I’ve Fridayed through in a while.
I figured I’d share some of the stuff I’ve been collecting in my phone to share with people. Like… hey, y’all can be my people. You kind of are.
First. Let’s start with pretty much the most WTF thing I’ve seen in a REALLY LONG TIME.
The other day I saw a girl doing a Facebook live video of her preparing her baby’s placenta. It was actually a video of her with her baby’s placenta. I was like… what in THE WORLD could someone be doing with their baby’s placenta? Stupid me and my stupid curiosity, I hit up google. I’m actually judging you if you’ve done this, just saying.
A few weeks ago I left my keys at the coffee shop. When I walked back in, I realized how easy it is to identify my keys because I can be like “oh yeah, it has a mary-kateandashley keychain.” I’m super used to it and suddenly I realized how funny my keychain is. Also, I absolutely bid on (and obviously won) that keychain on eBay.
True story: about a month into dating, I thought I left my keys at a restaurant. I was panicking and remember watching Justen calmly call the restaurant and explain that we were looking for keys with a mary-kateandashley keychain with Disney Princess shoes and I thought… yeah, I think I might marry him. haha.
Real life photo of my hair this winter… anyone else feeling this? Actually my hair kind of always looks like that.
Yeah, let’s talk about how Printable Happies CONTINUES to be my spirit animal. Like… yes. everything about this. Counting down the days until we go to Nashville (31!!!!!) AND until we’re off of our no spend month so I can buy this bad boy.
Hello did y’all know that Amazon has giveaways? because they do. and on the day I discovered it, I ACTUALLY WON SOMETHING! and not something ultra lame either, I won these earrings that I actually love! I’ve not won anything since, but whatever!
I literally hate pizza, but Justen loves it, so we decided to make pizza. My half was the olive half, and when Justen presented me a piece it was a bunch of sauce and very minimal cheese and I literally lost it. I held it together for like four minutes and then I spent the next two hours crying about how Justen didn’t put cheese to the edge of the pizza. Let’s talk about how fun it must be being married to me.
There’s all that. Happy Friday. Drop me something random in the comments below!
In December, I had my gallbladder removed and while I hated being in the hospital, I LOVED the recovery week. I had no option but to lay on the couch in my coziest clothes, under my coziest blanket, eat jello and binge watch Grey’s Anatomy. I was forced to just lay there and let my body take care of itself.
Since leaving my ‘regular’ job and balancing a few different streams of income, I’ve had a really hard time knowing how to stop. Some days I’ll babysit from 5:30 pm – 8:30 am, work on Poshmark listing + closet sharing + sourcing from 9:00 am – 5:00 pm and then babysit from 5:30 – 8:30 am. I’ll get home, open up WordPress and try to force myself to squeeze something out. and (shocker…) there’s often nothing to squeeze because I’ve been working for like 36 hours straight.
I have a hard time letting myself rest, because every moment is a potential work hour. I’ve started to brainstorm ways to help myself transition out of “work mode” and into “rest mode” at the end of the day, and I thought I’d share my top 15 with you. I’m always down to hear more, so please drop me a comment with what you do to unwind at the end of the day!
Take a nice warm bath. extra points for a bath bomb.
Go for a walk. Lucie Fink recently shared that she goes on a walk when she gets home for work and it’s blown my mind. What a great way to get in some exercise and fresh air!
Read a book.
Well, not a whole one (unless you have the time!) just read a chapter.
Drink a glass of water
Stand in your kitchen and drink a big glass of water. Don’t chug it, just drink it and take a moment.
Do some stretches
Diffuse some oils.
A good calming blend is equal drops Vetiver, Lavender, Ylang Ylang and Cedarwood. Just don’t close your eyes or else you may find yourself dozing off a bit. If you want a sample of this blend, drop me a message and I’ll send you a sample of this relaxing blend!
Put a few things away.
Don’t go on any major cleaning spree, but if there’s anything out of place that interrupts your space, put it back where it should be. We’re talking minor stuff like an empty water glass or mug or a book.
Put your phone in another room.
If being away from your phone stresses you out, set a 20 minute timer and stay away from your phone for 20 minutes. Take time to just BE with yourself and your space.
Change your clothes
Put on pants that don’t button. y’all know what I mean….
Put on a playlist of relaxing music
Doesn’t have to be Enya. John Mayer ALWAYS does it for me when I just want to unfreakingwind.
Paint your nails
Preferably while diffusing oils and listening to John Mayer… wearing pants without buttons.
Meditate for a few minutes
Use an app like Headspace and spend a few minutes meditating.
Put on a face mask.
Not trying to get ultra into DIY spa mode, but putting on a face mask forces you to just kind of take a breather.
Watch an episode (or two) of your favorite TV show
I put this one at the end because it can become a huge time suck. But there’s absolutely nothing wrong with unwinding by watching a show and diving into the fictional world of other people’s lives and problems.
Okay YOUR turn – what are things you do to unwind at the end of the day?
ps currently diffusing the blend I mentioned, burning some candles, drinking some coffee and watching Grey’s Anatomy. I took a bath (plus face mask!) and changed my clothes. So I’m living my best, most unwound life right now.
This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, INC. and The Coca-Cola Company, all opinions are mine alone. #WinCoPizzaNight #CollectiveBias
Is it just me, or does it seem like the days go by faster once the sun starts setting earlier? Suddenly it’s “night time” at 4 pm and it’s hard for me to want to do ANYTHING once the sun goes down.
Pair that with being a newlywed whose husband takes on an overtime project and making dinner when he gets home + eating it + cleaning up after dinner is LITERALLY followed by pajamas and bed. Y’all, that has been our glamorous life. When people ask how married life is going for us we’re like IDK we really don’t see each other that often.
Luckily, we make time to try and get time to slow down. We’ve adjusted our language from not “having time” to not “making time,” because we have as many hours in the day as Beyonce, according to Pinterest. Anyway!
On my 101 in 1001 list is a goal to watch a bunch of movies Justen wants me to watch, one of them being A Christmas Story! We made time by picking up a WinCo pizza and Coca-Cola® (for him) and a Diet Coke (for me)! Really, is there any better way to pair pizza than with Coca-Cola?!
WinCo (follow them on Facebook and Pinterest!) is an employee-owned company with consistently low prices. Their Instagram,Twitter and Snapchat (ilovewinco) are full of behind the scenes and employee stories, which I LOVE. They limit their advertising, which helps them pass that savings on to their customers! Cozy nights in that don’t break the bank? Double win. The cozy night savings go even further. Save $1 when you buy any WinCo Pizza and (2) 2-Liter Coca-Cola Beverages (in-store coupon offer Ends 2/28/18)! We picked up a take and bake pizza at the deli and grabbed our Coca-Cola on our way to check out.
We popped in the pizza, got on our pajamas and queued up A Christmas Story. The pizza was done just in time, and thanks to our festive paper plates + cups, there were ZERO dishes to do afterwards! Which meant that we got to spend the rest of the night all cozied up, watching the movie.
Here’s the thing, y’all. It’s not about not having time. It’s not that we don’t have enough time to make memories or spend quality time or pause life, it’s that we don’t MAKE time to do those things.
If you live near a WinCo (check their site for store locations), pick up one of their deli pizzas (you can even get them HOT and READY TO GO!) grab a bottle of Coca-Cola and make time to have a night with someone you love.
Also – if you had a list of MUST WATCH movies for your spouse or best friend, what would be on them?
One of the things on my list of 101 things to do in 1001 days is to clean up my blog’s Drafts folder. Sometimes I write blogs and never go back to putting pictures in them or actually hitting “publish” so you might see them sneaking in 🙂 We’ve been holding hands for 669 days now and even each wear rings on them. Somehow the dollar joke wore off, but I’m going to be bringing it back because it was sweet. 🙂
Update: still loving every day I get to spend with Justen Martian.
So far we’ve spent 210 (8/15) days of this year holding each other’s hand, and it’s great.
Sometimes, y’all. Sometimes he reaches for my hand at the most AWKWARD and inconvenient times. Like I’ll be holding my phone in my hand, and he’ll reach to grab my hand. or when my hand is in my pocket. I decided that it was becoming such an issue that he needed to pay me a dollar every time he awkwardly reached for my hand.
Often, we will be going about our day, strolling around Target or walking to a coffee shop or something like that. and my hand will be in my purse, feeling around for gum, and he’ll attempt to grab that hand.
and I’ll simply say “dollar.”
When I’m cold, I keep my hands tucked inside of my jacket sleeves. and he tries to hold my hand.
When I’m scratching my leg.
Right as I’m about to get up.
He doesn’t actually pay me a dollar, but it’s still fun. Plus he buys me coffee and dinner and puts up with me so he owes me literally nothing.
Do y’all have any cute little quirks about your relationship?
Praise hands for my September goals, y’all. I’ve got some time to kill, and logged into my blog dashboard for the first time in… a very long time. 😀 and then I just stared at the “Add New,” because there’s a lot going on… but I didn’t even know where to start. I opened up my September Goals and realized that I could get some stuff moving with those goals by working on this blog post.
Every so often I get these moments of really being mad at our society. I’ll flip through magazines and go “ad, ad, ad, article, ad, ad, article, ad, ad, ad, ad, ad, half page article about how to be better…” and it hits me that as women we are CONSTANTLY being told we aren’t enough. Weight loss, makeup, clothing, underwear, vacuums, snacks for kids… it turns out there’s always a better option we’ve been foolish to not pursue.
There are pounds to lose, and even if your pounds have been lost, there’s muscle to gain. Always something that makes our lives better than we’ve been settling for.
I often feel like I’m not enough – not enough for my dreams, not enough for the life I desire. I’m not ___ enough or ____ enough – it never ends.
I’m going to jump off the crazy train for a moment and do something that’s not an easy exercise for me. I’m going to make a list of things I like about myself – and make it public. It feels like it would be easier to just jot it down in my journal, but dang it I am going to be vulnerable.
Also, how absurd is it that making a list of things I like about myself feels more vulnerable than a list of things I DON’T like about myself? Messed the heck up.
01. I am open with others and share the story of my life without reservation.
02. If someone asks my feedback, I give an honest response.
03. I have a deep desire to see my friends win and succeed at everything they do.
04. I am often braver than I think, though it only comes out when it’s desperately needed.
05. Picking up the tab for coffee or lunch or a moment with my friends is a huge joy of mine.
06. I’m willing to put my money where my mouth is when I believe in some one/thing.
07. Admitting when I’m wrong has become a natural part of my relationships with people.
08. I’m not mesmerized by bigger/newer/better.
09. I possess the weird ability and love for treating lice on children.
10. I’m pretty good at finding ways to save and/or earn money and only keep the ones that are easy and breezy.
11. I can binge watch shows on Netflix like nobody else.
12. I’m a confident driver in many different forms of vehicles.
13. I try to say yes unless I have a real, solid reason to say no.
14. I’m pretty good at doing other people’s dishes and laundry.
15. Doing things by myself doesn’t scare me. Unless it’s new stuff, but that’s a different thing.
16. I have a deep well of Madeleine L’Engle words stored in my heart.
17. I can wait for things I want without growing impatient.
18. More often than not I take responsibility for my own actions/decisions and try to make new decisions and take new actions that will yield better results.
19. I know all the words to Legally Blonde the Musical. I really like that about myself.
20. I’ve been doing a really great job of not biting my nails for the past few months.
21. I can spend all day walking around malls and stores and walk out with no purchases. Window shopping fills me up.
22. Wearing the same outfit for 5 days in a row is a gift of mine. If I find something I love wearing, I just want to keep wearing it. So sue me.
23. I like that I have big financial goals for myself and Justen.
24. Food boredom rarely happens to me; I could eat the same 3 meals for a month straight and not be bothered at all.
25. All things considered, I have good intentions for almost everything I do, whether they’re seen that way or not.
Y’all, this was actually so very difficult. I thought, “no problem, 25 things I like about myself will be a cake walk.” It literally took me over a month – this was originally meant to be posted in AUGUST, but it took me that long to come up with 25 things.
So now I’m going to challenge you guys. I dare you to make a list (publicly or privately) of 25 things you like about yourself and then report back and tell me how the experience was. I expected to have some big grand new affection for myself, but mostly I spent time going “REALLY? I can’t think of ANYTHING?” Let me know what the experience is like for you! ;D