Guest Post / Lisa Barnes, author of Love to a Whore’s Daughter
Hey everyone, I want you to meet my friend Lisa. Lisa loves Jesus, and she is one of the most loving people I have ever had the good fortune to meet. She is somehow one of the fiercest and yet most vulnerable people I know. When she told me that she was going to be writing a book, I absolutely knew that once it was released, I needed you all to meet her.
Today she’s sharing her story of how her newly released book, Love to A Whore’s Daughter, came to be.
ps – how cute are we?
“Hey Lisa, do you want to write a book”
“Me, a book?”
“Yeah, we’ve been reading your blog and think a book would be a great thing.”
“…Um… No thanks…”
“NO THANKS!? No one ever says ‘no thanks’. Why?”
“Well…. I don’t want you to tell me what to write about, and I don’t need any more deadlines in my life.” (That stuff freaks me out. I can’t be a puppet, and I have enough time sensitive thangs to worry ‘bout)
“How about this…. You can write about whatever you want, and take as long as you would like.”
I was honored and terrified. Never in a million years did I think I would write a book. Don’t get me wrong, I totally LOVE writing, But I haven’t always.
I struggled with school my whole life. (That may have something to do with my aversion to deadlines and being told what to do….but we’ll leave that assumption alone for now) It took me 5 years to finish high school, and I still think that was a fluke. But that was what how most of us experienced school where I was from.
I grew up in the projects, with just me and my mom. She was an addict, dealer, and prostitute. It seemed like no one did well in school when you lived in the hood. It wasn’t important. Hustling was important, being the one in charge on the street was important. Getting your math homework done… didn’t even make the list.
I fell in love with Jesus, and as an adult I went to seminary, became an ordained minister, and got my BA in Counseling for Christian Ministries. It was after all that that my love for writing blossomed, all because I fought with God.
My hubs was gone for the weekend, and I was in a dark place with The Lord. I felt like I was useless in God’s economy because my ministry was more of event planning and handling paperwork. I wasn’t doing pastoral work, and my heart was wrecked about it.
I put the kids to bed and started praying, crying, pacing, and being more honest with God than I had in a long time. I described to God all the things that made me feel like garbage. I lamented in biblical proportions. I stopped to be still and listen and it was like I heard God say, “What is it that you want?”
“I want to be a woman of influence and I want to be a writer”
And that was it. That was where our fight ended. Before I knew it my love for writing exploded. I went to a writers conference that changed my life. And I was given opportunities to write where I never dreamed, my book included.
The night that I had the first conversation with my publishers I went to bed, and once I was still and silent, I heard God again.
“I heard you.”
He was present in our fight, not intimidated or offended by my anger or my attitude. God knew all the things I brought to His feet. He loved me enough to hear me out, loved me enough to be with me through the whole process, loved me enough to reassure me that he heard my voice, and show me that the desires of my heart are important to Him.
God is faithful, and in my book Love to a Whore’s Daughter; Life and Faith Through the Lens of Grace and Redemption, you will read more about how God has moved in mighty ways. You will see how we have a common story in that all of us are a work in progress, and that no one –no matter what you’ve done, or what has been done to you– is too far from God’s grasp.
A verse that you will read throughout Love to a Whore’s Daughter is Romans 5:3-4, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”
No matter what you are experiencing in your life, no matter what trials or triumphs, successes or setbacks, know that The Lord is present, and He has not forgotten you. Stay strong, connect to Jesus, and love your story.
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